I am part of an email group that has been having discussions about violence towards women for the last week or so. It was sparked off by the Avaaz campaign, against the savage rape of a woman in India, who later died, and the culture of condoning these acts which is prevalent in that culture.
Some felt that the campaign is too sensationalist, and that there is too much of a focus and blame on men as perpetrators, while others feel that men and boys should feel shame for the actions of their counterparts. I didn’t have time to read all the words written, but when I tried to, I found myself getting stuck in my head, somehow all those words were distancing me from the reality of what the discussion was really about.
Someone posted a TED talk which spoke to this whole theme and I found it very inspiring, I wept through much of it, not sure how much of my release was sadness at what is done to women, and how much joy at the strength in the stories she tells, of courageous girls standing up for us all. You will find the link at the bottom of this post, Eve Ensler talking about the girl cell inside each and every one of us, man or woman.
After watching the video this is what I wrote: That we all are horrified at this kind of violence being perpetrated on anyone is apparent, any reasonable human being in their right mind could be nothing else.
That the feminine has been oppressed and ground down for centuries is indisputable, that it has been done to men and to women is also a part of the truth. There are many paths that lead to an enlightened and evolved humanity but I don’t believe that playing the blame or the shame game is particularly useful. Let our young men and women be brought up to honour their masculine and their feminine aspects, to step into their fullness with joy and with delight.
If I wasn’t an optimist I would have slit my wrists a long time ago, as it is I have a flame of hope that burns eternally in my heart that says that we will become those future humans. The most important change happens within our own consciousness, the river of awareness that can flow from this into the world cannot be quantified or labelled, we are more powerful than we can ever imagine.
|Eve Ensler: Embrace your inner girl | Video on TED.com|