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Stand Proud On Your Ground: Blessings In Disguise.

Four Agreements don miguel ruiz“The Four Agreements
1. Be impeccable with your word.
2. Don’t take anything personally.
3. Don’t make assumptions.
4. Always do your best. ”
Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom

So I am now on the other side of my latest challenges and I’m feeling very proud of the way in which I spoke my truth and stood my ground. It would have probably been better to manage that earlier but I was following my intuition all the way. My head was never happy about saying yes, but my heart needed to know what it would be like to tune in and I always got a yes. Until I got the no and was triggered for a couple of days of huge release, great clean out and helped to give me the confidence to be clear as I navigated my way through a tricky situation.

body in space

Starting to come back from that initial clearing and I discover someone has tried to steal my car and appears to have wrecked the ignition, can’t get the key in. It’s looking like I might need to be towed to replace the ignition. Just like any good mythical story I have a miracle three days later when a Good Samaritan helps me at very little cost, that’s what it’s like living in a good community. The same day my Beloved bought me a laptop that is exactly what I need, don’t have to share anymore although I do know a bit more about mac computers now so there were
benefits to the wait. Yay!

http://www.ananda.org/meditation/meditation-support/articles/sharing-happiness-others/

Then the day where I step into that larger version of me that stands easily in a place of power that is based in integrity and truth. Of course there have been tears and I have felt a bit shaky at times, but at the same time I feel incredibly liberated! Freedom! The thing is don’t expect that just because you are doing your best to take responsibility for the part you have played in events that this will be reciprocated by those with whom you are interacting. What is important is to act with honour for yourself, to be as honest and transparent as is possible. And with the prospect of no change to the inequitable situation the only possible course was to close that chapter immediately.

thefool

Hooray for the New Chapter of my Life, on as the Fool leaping off into the abyss and knowing with absolute trust that there is a feather bed waiting for my landing.

Aho!

“If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you. If that person doesn’t walk away, you will surely endure many years of suffering with him or her. Walking away may hurt for a while, but your heart will eventually heal. Then you can choose what you really want. You will find that you don’t need to trust others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices.”
Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom

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An Adventurous Life Is A Choice!

Noel Gardner: Maleny Music Weekend: http://www.malenymusicweekend.com/

Noel Gardner: Maleny Music Weekend: http://www.malenymusicweekend.com/

Musical vibes filtering through festival haze as the whole shebang is winding down after a lovely gathering has woven its spell. The dancing is done, for now……remembering that moving the body will move energy so that all can flow with ease and grace. And I have a busy week in which I will need to be extremely proactive, how about bringing this lazy chilled way of being to that week of getting things done!

Maleny Music Weekend.

Maleny Music Weekend.

It’s been an adventurous last little bit of time with my Beloved and I, stuff coming up and old feelings kicking around. Luckily we navigate reasonably well by talking a lot, even about difficult feelings when we are ready to. Now he is off for a few days to care for aged parents and we need to get ourselves organised for a run through of our upcoming workshop. With lots of clear communication and the right attitude we can do it all without getting too stressed, I choose to see it as an adventure!

Create your own reality feels very pertinent to me at the moment, I can feel this holographic shape that I’m moving into which is where Cerridwen’s cauldron is making the future. It is the zero point field where all possibilities exist, the quantum soup which is the raw material of what we want to manifest. It is a fluid space where you need to be flexible and always remember the impermanence of all things.

Cerridwen by Catherine Svhela

Cerridwen by Catherine Svhela

If that sounds like hard work you couldn’t be more wrong, with a song on your lips and a skip in your step it’s time to go down the yellow brick road. Time for adventure and time to tell the stories that will create the new age of man if there is indeed to be one, as I do believe that there will be.

Captain Jean-Luc Picard.

Captain Jean-Luc Picard.

As Captain Picard always says, “Make it so!”

Openess And Honesty: Be Yourself And Be Mindful.

Be Yourself, everyone else is taken! Oscar Wilde. Photo by Ulli Hansen.

Be Yourself, everyone else is taken! Oscar Wilde. Photo by Ulli Hansen.

A few posts ago I wrote about the theme of inner balance, my thoughts inspired by the Joining Gathering, it was about loving self and thus becoming more open to other kinds of love. (Inner Balance: A Meditation On Joining). Well once you have moved into a more mature way of relating, the place where you are yourself and so are they, you love it all and you see this amazing beauty in another soul. There’s a poem I hear sometimes in medicine circles that says something like, I love you in all your exquisite flaws, and that’s how it is when you connect on a deep level.

Passionate-embrace

A key element in this kind of relationship is clear communication, and that isn’t just about words, we use feelings to communicate, and don’t forget body language too. If there is something going on inside you that doesn’t feel good, don’t be afraid to name it and own it, even though your head may know that it isn’t true, your feelings will keep telling you that things are not right. Sometimes simply voicing something can be enough to shift whatever energetic charge is being triggered, and that can be sound without words, for example toning.

My Beloved and I had been through an overnight ceremony and were taking it easy at home as we recovered from a wonderful but also quite intense experience. At some point in the late afternoon the mood shifted, we were both tired but my Beloved was deeply tired and he began to withdraw into himself. I could feel a difference in him but I was tired and we went through this time of me wanting to talk even though there wasn’t a lot of enthusiasm in the response. Basically we both had a lot of stuff going on and I as a woman wanted to talk and he as a man wanted to go into his cave and do whatever it is that men do in there!

Men are from mars

In the end I began to feel cut off from my lover and an energy in my heart was triggered and the specific feeling was disappointment, it felt horrible and I didn’t feel like I could sleep. My beloved was exhausted as well as withdrawn and when I told him what I could feel he really didn’t have the energy to deal with it. I eventually got out of bed and went and built up the fire, watching a fire burn is rather therapeutic, then curled up in front of the fire and fell asleep there.

The next morning my dear one came out with surprise wondering where on earth I was, we went back to bed and talked about what had been going on for each of us the previous evening. We took responsibility for our own stuff, I knew perfectly well the feelings in my body came from some other time before we’d even met. And he realised that he would probably have been better off just going off on his own, or even to bed much earlier. We do practice clear communication most of the time but we are also human and the last time I looked I wasn’t perfect!