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Compassion Is Cool And Good For Your Health.

Relaxed and readingI’ve been a bit stressy the last few weeks for lots of different reasons so it is with a sense of great relief that I can declare myself as extremely chilled! Some of this is due to actual events but a lot of it has to do with the big changes that my internal beliefs have gone through. When my Beloved hit some bureaucratic snags that affect our income I did not go into gloom and doom, my focus was rather on all the good stuff that is happening instead. And I made a conscious decision that I was prepared to let go of anything that wasn’t absolutely necessary to our survival including the trip for my brother’s wedding. I didn’t contract over money in fact I suggested we go out for dinner and guess what, the world didn’t end. Not only did the world not end but other changes have taken a whole lot of pressure away from the goals I’ve been striving for and it is all looking very achievable.

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What is really getting me excited is that I responded positively to changing events even when they seemed negative. I found things to be grateful for and took the opportunity to take care of myself by going to yoga and meditation and then having a very relaxing weekend. I was already chilled when the bits of good news came through so things just got better and better! So no matter how hard it might seem to have a practice of gratitude or meditation or yoga, it really is worth doing whether the results are instant or take a lot of time. Having a sense of purpose helps a lot as it can keep you on track with what you are doing even when it seems like nothing is happening. Interpreting events in positive ways is also very helpful and giving focus to those things will pay off in how you feel about life in general.

Being positive

Being generous is also a factor in having a sense of well-being in your life, the article at the end of this post talks about ways in which you can improve the skills that will help you to become healthier and happier. Helping other people feels good and there are numerous studies that demonstrate the truth of this. Become a regular volunteer and you will increase your chance of living longer and enjoying your time on the planet a whole lot more! I’ve been pretty busy and stressed out but that hasn’t stopped me from volunteering at my local neighbourhood centre for a few hours each week and it is contributing to my sense of well-being. Neuroscience is showing us that being kind and compassionate is good for our neurons so if you want to be really healthy it’s time to be nice at every opportunity. And don’t forget to include yourself in that approach!

helping others

Here’s the article I mentioned:

How Science Reveals That “Well-Being” Is a Skill

The Warm And Cosy Nest Of Love.

Dancing Lovers.There are times when I want to lie forever in the warm nest that my Beloved and I make between us. Exploring the frontiers of pleasure and connectedness to another being so deep that you often have the sense of almost being merged with them. It’s a cosy little world and when I am in it I don’t ever want to leave. Then I go out in the world to work and to connect with my community, to interact with a different environment. That too can be magnificent, just as long as I keep nurturing that place called home that we have created together and separately. The place in myself that is love that I do not actually carry, it is more that it is the truth of who I am.

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One of my important jobs is to be as happy as I can be and to radiate that joy out into the world as widely as I can. I am considering the possibility of being out in the world a bit more depending on some outcomes, I will have to remember the light and remember to radiate. Taking my bubble of love out into this strange world we have created is an opportunity to spread the energies of love and of compassion.

Big Rainbow

May all Beings everywhere be happy and free!

Love and blissings to all beings everywhere!

The Courage To Live Life To The Full!

child wonderEmptiness can be very full, a blank canvas stretching out within the core of the soul’s journey that can seem terribly bleak if your view of the world tells you that you must always ‘know’ and understand every little thing. But if you are prepared to be a child again and get excited about the unknown then that clear space of nothing is full of raw potential that is simply waiting for your focus to become something wonderful!

ecstaticdancer2I have been feeling a bit anxious about various aspects of my life even as I revel in my deeply satisfying relationship, old habits die hard they say and the mind tends to go looking for justification for its sometimes rather strange notions. I sat in a medicine circle not so long ago and one of the messages coming through loud and clear was that I am living an amazing and ecstatic life right here and now.

And it isn’t hard to see life that way if I am prepared to truly go out on a limb and ignore all the messages from the everyday world that say you have to be in a regular job and fit in to society’s way of thinking. I don’t work nine to five and instead of renting or living in my own home I do house sitting, it means I can live in places that my current income would never be able to support. In the modern world status is gathered by the material things we accumulate, if you were to judge me by those standards then you’d have to say that I am an utter, utter failure.

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Luckily I don’t see it that way, and when my mind encounters early programming that tells me I’m not good enough it doesn’t take too long to realise what’s going on. So much of what we’ve been told about the world is based on narrow views of reality that leave out all the best bits, like spirituality and love, community and compassion. Time to do what Terence McKenna recommends and to “tell society to fuck off!”

The Compassionate Brain.

My current main themes for contemplation are all revolving around awareness and the way we can choose where and how to focus our attention. You can see the world as revolving around you and take everything personally, or you can decide that other people have their own issues and problems and that their actions, however annoying at times, might be coming from the same place as your own frustrations and worries.

Matthieu Ricard.

Matthieu Ricard.

Compassion is not just some high-minded flaky concept that Buddhist monks and New Age hippies bandy about, it’s a very practical way to operate in a world that is incredibly stressful for just about everyone. So says Matthieu Ricard, a former molecular geneticist and buddhist monk, also known as the happiest man in the world. With functional brain scanning technology it is now possible to see what is going on in the brain as it happens, Ricard was hooked up to one of these machines and asked to meditate on compassion. There was an increase in gamma rays which are associated with consciousness, attention, learning and memory. There was also a lot of activity in his left prefrontal cortex which indicates a huge capacity for happiness, this man is very unlikely to making negative choices about his experience. http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2012/10/29/buddhist-monk-declared-worlds-happiest-man/

There is so much evidence these days that shows that we can change our neurology, and the good news is that you don’t have to spend hours in meditation every day to do it. Whatever time you can find for that kind of activity will be time well spent, but it’s also about the myriad of choices that you make every day about how you are going to perceive your current experience. Keep making positive choices and that positivity will begin to accumulate and eventually you will begin to change your default settings to happiness and joy.

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This video is an excerpt from a speech made to a graduating class of college students in America and is a refreshing take on what education is all about, it’s exactly the sort of thing that ought to be taught in schools. It manages not only to convey meaning most concisely, it’s also very entertaining and if you are interested you can check out the whole speech.

Video (09:23)

http://www.nextworldtv.com/page/24400.html

Divine Love.

I had a day recently when I felt great compassion for someone who I have very mixed feelings towards, there is a deep connection but to open my heart fully would be not only foolish, but actually dangerous. Sounds a bit dramatic doesn’t it, but I am not exaggerating here, I told the story of being attacked on a psychic level in an earlier post (All The Freaky People: 2 July 2013), it was very frightening and I was sick for four days. I definitely don’t want to go through that experience again, once was more than enough.

So it was a challenge to walk the fine line between compassion and protection, it brought up a lot of fear for me but I managed to navigate my way through, I stayed in my heart but kept my boundaries firm and clear. It wasn’t until the next day I read what the message of the HeartFire Gateway had been for that day (The HeartFire Gateway: 14 Aug 2013), it was all about honouring the Divine Self and asked the question, how will you BE LOVE today. I smiled, because the answer to that question was so very clear, to love our dear friends is the easiest thing in the world, but to love one who has done you harm is much more difficult.

Ma Durga: The Divine Mother.

Ma Durga: The Divine Mother.

Kabir said: “Do what you do with another human being, but never put them out of your heart”, to BE LOVE is to be your essential self, it is who we all are underneath all the stuff. When we are in our hearts we are in our divinity, we are present to life and its infinite possibilities.

This beautiful song from Donna De Lory captures the essence of this feeling of being love, it is about the Divine Mother, an exquisite combination of sacred chanting and pop music, enjoy and feel into your heart!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=czSephKaMag

And just for a bit of fun here is another kind of love from the Divinyls, sexy sensual Chrissy Amphlett singing about how she touches herself, what a siren!

Chrissy Amphlett.

Chrissy Amphlett.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wv-34w8kGPM

From Twilight To Joy!

The twilight world hath beckoned me in from the bright sunlight realms where I am wont to spend my time, it reminds me that wherever there is light, there will also be shadow. You cannot have the one without the other, to deny any part of this design is to deny it all, and so I surrender to my own darkness, even as I set the boundaries firm against incursions from without. For I am sovereign in my own inner space, none may come here save that they be invited.

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I am soft and my heart is boundless, I look inside the self that I be and I become lost in the great distances that I find there. It’s like a great cavern that goes on forever, full of treasures, some well-known and others waiting to be discovered. How could I ever be lost or feel small when there is such bounty within? This is perhaps the greatest mystery of human kind, that we should look so intently outside of ourselves, for the fulfillment that lies in quite the opposite direction.

heart_of_oneness

Righteous anger gives me the strength to do the tasks that have been appointed to me, even as compassion keeps me in my heart, there are some kinds of darkness that must be dealt with, so that the integrity of the world may be restored. I do not judge, nor am I the executioner, at the end of the day I hand over to a higher power and then it is no business of mine.

I am weary, but this will pass, and I will rise even stronger for the travails that I have passed through. And always there is joy, beneath all the rest, love and joy and bliss are running always, inviting me to come and play, to dance and sing in the sun’s brightest ray!

Here is a beautiful meditation from the Archangel Michael through Annette Sassou, also known as Asara, it is an activation for the third eye: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jqbaMetiFbg

If you like this check out http://www.teloschannel.com/ for other meditations and talks.

Action Speaks Loud.

Words and thoughts concerning compassionate action that are not put into practice are like beautiful flowers that are colourful but have no fragrance.

Thich Nhat Hanh.

If you are interested in manifesting new opportunities in your life the process of visioning is most important, as is the letting go of anything that might get in the way of that vision. But unless you take whatever the appropriate action is to carry that forward into your living experience, it remains a glimpse into the raw field of quantum potential.

Find  your practice, your method, and let your enthusiasm create a discipline that through repetition gives birth to new sensitivities and understandings. To truly go all the way with your method you must allow yourself to be seduced, this is when obsession becomes your ally, along with whatever symbols are significant for you in your journey. But at some point there needs to be a letting go or breaking down of your method or practice, remain rigid and you will begin to lose the insights and be doing it for its own sake. A bit like the self-sustaining beaurocracy that has forgotten that it is in service to the community, and is lost in the ego filled sea, or cloud of unknowing.

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So I am interested in manifesting my soulmate or partner, just by shifting my frequency I can begin to become an attractor, but if I stay at home no-one will see me. Of course the whole being an attractor is quite subtle, the thing is to be out enjoying one’s life, notice what is coming into your orbit and from this raw material allow the new beginning to manifest. I’m having lots of fun and lots of connections with nice men, and no pressure to do anything other than be myself in the process, feels very empowering.

Becoming The Queen!

I talk a lot about stepping into my power, and one of the symbols for that process which is frequently before me in the readings I do for others, is the Queen. As I channel information through for clients, I often see reflections in my own life. I did a reading just recently for a very beautiful woman who was wanting to know about a relationship, she got three queens and what they were telling her was that she needed to focus on her spiritual path. The path of the heart, but not some romantic notion of that, it was all about her becoming empowered. The relationship was a good lesson for her, but ultimately it was not supporting her to be all that she can be.

queenofhearts

I’m not in a relationship, but I’ve been feeling an attraction for the first time in almost a decade, and it’s been quite a journey! Of course all my old patterns in relationship have been well and truly triggered, and there’s been the opportunity to clear enormous amounts of my excess baggage. It’s been a blessing even when I’ve been in tears, not because anyone is behaving badly, (for the most part), but because my ‘reactions’ have come out of my old programming, and this is providing a golden opportunity to clear the past out of my cellular structure.

The more that  I clear away the old negative patterning the lighter I become, and the more I can move into embodying my larger self, the one that carries herself with a royal air, at the same time she emanates compassion and love for all things, especially her smaller ego self. And this Queen will settle for nothing less than a King at her side, a relationship of equals who support each other in fulfilling the tasks they have come on to the planet to undertake.

On Marriage Kahlil Gibran

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore. You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days. Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God. But let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.

And just for a bit of fun check out another kind of Queen: Freddie Mercury!

Contracting Into Compassion.

And so the loss sits in my heart, the contraction that will often follow a period of great bliss and joy, the light that has been streaming in illuminates whatever needs to move. There is no story attached to it, something that I don’t need anymore is leaving me and I feel sadness as it’s moving out, I feel myself going within to be alone until this has passed and I may go into the world again. Which by the way will be tomorrow!

Sounding a bit like a Greek tragedy am I not? The pain is deep because I am allowing myself to feel all of it, but it’s transitory, and when it’s gone I will be that much lighter for the surrender that has occurred. I sat in a Tesla Stargate today and felt strong energies moving through my body, this feeling I have now is no doubt a part of the healing process, expansion followed by contraction, followed by a lightening of the load.

I choose to surrender to the space that my soul is sailing through, an ocean with many currents and none of them right, and none of them wrong, simply what is in the moment. I allow the moisture to form in my windows on the world, the place where those who know how to look may truly see me. Just as I feel myself expressing the truth of my deepest self to be witnessed, I am able to perceive all the ways in which I still am holding back.

It’s tempting to dabble in a little self-flagellation, but alas I am awake to the drawbacks of that particular game and so I shall have to simply accept that I am a work in progress. I can feel little Miss I have to get it right, possibly even perfect, still finding a voice to nag with, but her power has much diminished. I think that I sometimes go a bit unconscious when big shifts are moving through, my brain can get a bit foggy and so that probably gives the little Miss the idea that she might be able to take over.

No such luck sweetheart, this is one crazy lady who can always find compassion in her heart for her own sweet self, even when she feels like a bit of a dummy. So goodnight to serious considerations and hello to Buffy, or perhaps a bit of travel through the world of Robin Hobb’s fantasies, as the dolphins said just before they left the earth that had been marked for demolition by a Vogon Fleet, “Goodby and thanks for all the fish!”

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The Days of Wine and Chocolate.

Do you remember that expression, stop the world I want to get off? That was my day not long ago, things cancelled at the last minute, friends forgetting appointments, usually I can move with the flow whatever it does, but on this particular day I got all out of kilter.

Oh yes, if you are following my posts you can probably guess, more stuff coming up, it never rains but it pours, and this time I’m not referring to the weather! This time it was simply energy moving and feelings moving with the energy, it felt like loss, abandonment, hopelessness, all the feelings you would prefer to do without. I watched Buffy, ate a small packet of organic potato chips with sea salt and one very small regular caramel chocolate, and had a bit of red wine.

When I think about the days of litres of wine, mountains of chocolate, iced donuts and pastries full of custard, I can really see how much progress I’ve made. That little bit of naughtiness helped me through a rough patch without stressing my body too badly, and it certainly didn’t suppress the release that eventually came.

Chocolate donuts

I do try to be good about what I put in my body when it comes to food, but sometimes you have to allow a little flexibility. A little bit of what you like does you no harm if most of the time you’re supporting your physical self in the way that works best for you. And guilt is not a useful path to follow, it was guilt over my father’s suicide that destroyed my self-esteem when I was in my late teens. Thirty years later I have at last rebuilt that aspect of self, I don’t do guilt anymore, instead I do my best to be compassionate to myself.

It always seems to come back to love, the big love, the one that holds everything together and connects all living things. By the end of that day I had found peace in myself, my heart felt soft, and I knew that I had let go once again of parts of me that were no longer serving my higher purpose.

The last couple of months have been huge for me, the biggest shifts I have experienced in quite a while, I don’t think it’s an accident that this is coinciding with the end of 2012 and the start of 2013. There are big changes happening everywhere, not always in places we can see with the human eye, but creating a wave of change that everyone can’t help but be affected by, whether they can sense it or not.

Bring it on I say, the current reality isn’t working and the change is well overdue!

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