Relaxation is one of those states of being that tends to be undervalued in this culture, where action and achievement are held up as the pinnacles we are meant to be aiming at. Personally I just don’t have the motivation to climb that particular Everest, how about we go gliding through the canals of Venice, or if you really like winter sports then try sledding down the hill and simply letting go. When I can make the space for it I am pretty good at letting go, and when I allow it, I have become adept at actually relaxing into my fullness.
If you have a look at tantra you will find a lot of talk about relaxation, instead of going faster and faster and heading towards a ‘peak’ orgasm, you relax and allow the subtle energies to be perceived and felt, and sink into what is known as a ‘valley’ orgasm. I’m not speaking from personal experience, ten years ago when I was in my last relationship I knew nothing about any of this stuff although some of it happened spontaneously. I was already beginning to clear my stuff and move energies and as a woman it is much easier for me to be in that tantric space, it’s all about ‘being’ rather than ‘doing’.
When the opportunity to move into relationship as a spiritual practice arrives I will embrace it wholeheartedly, but in the meantime I will practice relaxation in all areas of my life as best I can. Things work better, we operate more harmoniously when we are coming from a relaxed space, but that’s a discussion for another post.
Good news for anyone who suffers from performance anxiety in the bedroom, which would be just about everyone at some point in a relationship. And for those of you who aren’t worried, are you on automatic pilot doing the same thing every time because you know it works, and if you try something new you might get rejected and isn’t that simply the worst possible thing that could happen! I’m not hearing relaxation in any of that description, and while I may be exaggerating a little and focusing on the negative, there are some truths in what I say.
More on this subject another time, in the meantime have a listen to Frankie Goes To Hollywood singing “Relax (Don’t do it)”, I don’t think I ever really listened to the words before, it’s about valley orgasms!
Words and thoughts concerning compassionate action that are not put into practice are like beautiful flowers that are colourful but have no fragrance.
Thich Nhat Hanh.
If you are interested in manifesting new opportunities in your life the process of visioning is most important, as is the letting go of anything that might get in the way of that vision. But unless you take whatever the appropriate action is to carry that forward into your living experience, it remains a glimpse into the raw field of quantum potential.
Find your practice, your method, and let your enthusiasm create a discipline that through repetition gives birth to new sensitivities and understandings. To truly go all the way with your method you must allow yourself to be seduced, this is when obsession becomes your ally, along with whatever symbols are significant for you in your journey. But at some point there needs to be a letting go or breaking down of your method or practice, remain rigid and you will begin to lose the insights and be doing it for its own sake. A bit like the self-sustaining beaurocracy that has forgotten that it is in service to the community, and is lost in the ego filled sea, or cloud of unknowing.
So I am interested in manifesting my soulmate or partner, just by shifting my frequency I can begin to become an attractor, but if I stay at home no-one will see me. Of course the whole being an attractor is quite subtle, the thing is to be out enjoying one’s life, notice what is coming into your orbit and from this raw material allow the new beginning to manifest. I’m having lots of fun and lots of connections with nice men, and no pressure to do anything other than be myself in the process, feels very empowering.
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Seems like meditation is my theme at this moment, sitting, lying, walking and moving, some would say that every aspect of our lives is potentially a space for meditation to occur. I do agree with this idea, but in order to reach this kind of place in ourselves requires practice, the more you do something the easier it becomes. And if you have energy stuck in your body that needs to be processed and released, then specific techniques can be incredibly helpful.
I love to dance, I find that when I move my body things tend to shift, it’s something you can do anytime with whatever space is available. Just put on music that feels right to you and go for it! I moved to one of Gabrielle Roth’s dance meditation journeys yesterday and quite a lot came up, I felt enormous loss and anguish that spilled out into sound as well as the movement. Don’t know exactly what it was relating to, simply energy and emotion moving out of the cells of my body.
Today I have slowly but surely been developing uneasy belly, those of you who have been following me for a while will recall lots of posts about that particular aspect of my being. Looks like there is no rest for the wicked! I am interpreting the term wicked as meaning totally wonderful and awesome by the way, not sure if that is the current thinking, but if it isn’t I shall make it so, just like Jean-Luc Picard on the deck of the Starship Enterprise.
Captain Jean-Luc Picard.
And after all the Enterprise is all about exploring strange new territories in outer space, my role is much the same, it’s just inner space we’re talking about here, probably even more mysterious.
Here’s a very silly video, the Picard song, you might even want to have a dance to it! Enjoy!!!!!
I’ve had a period of relative calm for once in my life, not much ‘stuff’ coming up at all, being a bit indulgent with myself and that feels good too. When I come back into my practices that will also feel very good, I think it’s important not to ever be rigid with anything that we do, even the good habits can afford a holiday sometimes. All this making food for people is leading me back into sugar and grain at times, special occasions that have been happening all too often lately, having broken my lifelong sugar addiction I’m most reluctant to go back into that space.
caramel apple pie
So I need to think about how to manage the craving for sweets that is making a return appearance this week, pretty simple really, be strict with my diet whenever I’m not in entertaining mode. And in the long-term I want to come up with more sweet foods that I can easily make that are actually good for me, seems like palm sugar might be a good thing to find out more about. Raw cake and raw chocolate can be utterly delicious and super good for you, one of my dinner guests brought raw chocolate that she made herself, it was divine and sounded very easy to make.
Another couple of weeks of entertaining to get through without becoming the size of a house, like when Alice drank the bottle marked ‘drink me’ and grew and grew and grew! Maybe I should try to stir up some more stuff, that uneasy belly makes for an excellent appetite suppressant! Only kidding, only kidding……..I’m sure there is shedding in my future without my having to go trying to dig anything up, that’s life after all, receiving and letting go, receiving and letting go…………….breathing in and breathing out…………bless………..
While you have all been enjoying (I hope!), my story of being buried in the earth, I’ve been getting back into my sitting meditation. This is a practice I go in and out of but I would like it to become a daily thing along with my stretches and oil pulling. Even five minutes can be incredibly beneficial and half an hour is like having every cell in your body slowly sinking into a delicious suspension that can sometimes feel almost like levitation. Now that would be cool, floating above the ground like some Indian Sadhu.
There was a period when I did an hour a day for a week or two, towards the end of the first week I had a profound experience of shifting my consciousness completely. I lay down on the bed on this particular night and I fell out of ordinary time and space into the cosmos. It’s hard to find words for it but it was like I became huge and expanded, I was pure consciousness and had no awareness of my body at all. I could feel the stars and other physical bodies floating in space and it felt like they were a part of me, a religious person would probably think of it as being in the mind of God.
In a way I agree with that notion, but I don’t call it God unless I’m adding in Goddess, All That Is, to me it is the state of unity consciousness where we actually perceive the truth. That we are connected to all things, just as our bodies are composed of billions of cells living in community, we are a part of the living matrix of Gaia and the cosmos! Bring a conscious awareness into this mix and we begin to move into the possibility of becoming so much more than a small ego walking around in a bag of flesh and bones.
When I think of the potential of humanity I get so inspired! So much of what is needed to make things right is already present and amazing new concepts only a thought away. Go into sacred space often in whatever way works for you, and you begin to feel the hope that comes from being in your heart, sitting meditation is only one of those doorways but I highly recommend it!
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