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Life, Death And Weddings!

expensive-wedding-dressIn Western culture we have little left in the way of ritual in our lives and when we do engage in some kind of ceremony the deeper meaning is often lost in the race to spend money and look good. A wedding is not just a chance to have a great party although that is certainly an important aspect. It is also an opportunity for people to come together in community, to connect and in many cases re-connect after long periods of separation. My Beloved and I are particularly looking forward to the eclectic mix that will be the selection of folk coming to help us celebrate our sacred union.

We’ve already started the process of connecting with community by having an art and craft day yesterday where we made lots of paper flowers to decorate the hall in the spirit of the Mexican Day of the Dead. I never realised how easy it is to make beautiful flowers with just crepe paper, pipe cleaners and a pair of scissors. At the end of the day one of my friends made the flowers into big bunches and we hung them all up on the back of a cane bookcase. At this point I am really wishing that we had a camera to take a picture of this amazing riot of colour. So the end result of our efforts was truly captivating but even more wonderful the energy created by a bunch of people coming together to engage in creative play and conversation.

All of this lovely energy will be a part of our wedding day along with the actual physical flowers and will help to create a feeling of happy harmony. Sounds like the perfect atmosphere for an event that will be celebrating relationship as a spiritual practice. And of course in relationship as in life, there is always the shadow as well as the bright, cheery light that we all love. That will be represented by our co-celebrant who will be in black symbolising death and chaos, while the other celebrant will be in white representing life and order. It is so important to have ways of navigating the dark and difficult times in relationship yet this is something that is often ignored in modern society. So when the sweetness is swept away by black thunderstorms people end up projecting their stuff on to each other and the next thing you know they are in the divorce court.

couple-fighting

The alternative is to hang in there and support each other through the difficult times even if you sometimes have no idea what is going on. Your darling is in the depths of depression and there is nothing you can say that will help, well maybe being silent is how you can be supportive. Or simply holding each other without words and letting your bodies do the talking, gaining reassurance from physical contact. If you can stay with the process you will find your relationship deepening as you become even closer. With every challenge and obstacle on our path my Beloved and I have become closer and closer and every day I love him a little bit more. Ain’t love grand!

Big Rainbow

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The Medicine Of Love, Awareness and Relaxation.

frazzledHello Online Blog World, I have been avoiding you all week and your cousin FB for the last couple of days. Since having the break from technology at Vipassana I am very partial to having at least one day a week where I ignore the internet and phone, sometimes more! But I did make a commitment to pop in a post once a week and my over conscientious streak is still a part of me, keep it constructively channeled and it can be a great asset. That’s the thing about getting to know yourself andmeditation beach being kind and compassionate in that self-regard. Things that you think are making you neurotic can become helpful as you relax and actually manage to truly see your thoughts and the patterns therein. With inner clarity you can see the general patterns that don’t support your happiness, and you can also see which bits help you to remain in that happy state.

So I know which patterns I want to encourage, how hard can it be and yet people everywhere continue to make choices that re-enforce exactly that. The first thing that needs to happen is for awareness to be brought to our thoughts, our body, our whole selves as much as is possible. There are many ways of doing that, I love body-based techniques that involve meditation and movement. Of course my absolute favourite is my Relationship as a Spiritual Practice but I love variety too so it is good to shop around. Dance is particularly good fun and I am looking forward to a new class I will be experiencing in a couple of weeks which combines Feldenkrais and dance.

dance-party

The informal practice of Vipassana remains excellent in terms of me bringing it to my everyday life but the formal practice has been somewhat intermittent. Not to worry, there have been many deep and fundamental shifts unfolding in the last couple of months and I can feel my forward progress quite strongly at the moment. This feels true for my Beloved also, he is making some important steps into his fullness as a man and this is such a delight for me! At the end of the day it is important to stay as centered as you can, to love well and find meaning and purpose in being alive on the planet. Accepting the choices you have made even as you flow in the direction of inspired change. Whatever you may have chosen consciously or unconsciously, there is always an option to change your mind if awareness has brought you new understanding.

sp;iritual home

Travel well my friends and be in the space of love as much as you possibly can, it is the greatest protector you could ever have. My love bubble is in it’s third year now and it has cushioned me in the tougher times, and enhanced my pleasure in sharing the great times. Love is such good medicine! Aho!

Strength And The Bubble Of Love!

Us on the day of our workshop!A couple of posts ago I wrote about the commitment ceremony that my Beloved and I had been planning for an entire year. So we have now passed through that important milestone and I can now report to you that I do feel very different. It was the culmination of the many processes that have accelerated our growth and expansion as we have explored relationship as a spiritual practice. I have been feeling more confident in myself as well as ridiculously happy!

The old Kerry was always worried about being a ‘good’ girl and getting things right, with the underlying feeling that this was doomed to fail no matter how hard I tried. Now I find myself easily stepping into my larger self who is more concerned with creating a life that is in alignment with my values rather than satisfying someone elses idea of what is right or wrong. For example if I see a discrepancy in say a work situation I will simply ask the appropriate question seeking clarification. Well how hard can that be I hear you ask! There was a time when I would agonise over such an issue and possibly even not end up asking the question.
StrongWoman

To simply be who I am without apology is the most liberating feeling and it gives me a sense of personal empowerment. This is something I can then bring to my sacred union, and to have someone I love deeply celebrating my achievements with me takes the whole thing up to an even higher level. So we feed off each other and expand even more and that energy bubble of love becomes bigger and bigger. That energy field that we create together is an important aspect of how we contribute to our community, we are quite literally spreading the love.

Dancing Lovers.

So be inspired if you like by our love story and find your own unique way of creating love and kindness in the world. If each of us could find that place in ourselves the world would be in much better shape.

 

Re-framing For Inner Peace

Not the state I aspire to!

Not the state I aspire to!

There are lots of creative ways to approach being very busy with major changes occurring on a number of fronts. A very common response and one that most of us would be familiar with is becoming anxious as the big events are looming and the mind wanting to worry about how it will all happen. I felt very overwhelmed last night and decided that I needed to have a meeting with my Beloved to write down and discuss what has to happen over the nest week or two. Synchronicity was on our side as the fellow student who was coming to work with my darling had to cancel, the opportunity opened up and we sat down to get focused.

Intention focus

We each made a list of what needed to happen over the next few weeks and compared notes with each other and with previous lists from last week. It helped me to manage the feeling of overwhelm and see that there were tasks for each day and that there would be some rather big days but it is doable. I also re-framed my feelings by focusing on the excitement that is a big part of my anticipation of being in a new home base. It is an adventure to be inspired by and also one could say a part of the devotional practices that my Beloved and I follow in our relationship as a spiritual practice. We are after all creating the home space that will be our anchor,the place where we feel grounded and welcome in between our house sit adventures!

sp;iritual home

All sounds like fun doesn’t it, and add to that the fact that I live in the Magic Kingdom where the community is loving and supportive  and there is so much creativity and stimulation that sometimes it’s hard to keep up. But the two approaches I talked about above, getting organised in a left brain way and shifting energy in the body via re-framing, are something you can do anywhere. So if you are feeling overwhelmed by your life know that there are a multitude of tools that can help you navigate your way with grace and ease.

So don’t worry, be happy! And here is Bobby McFerrin singing just that!

We Are One….. Connected To All Things.

Check out this amazing artist Gaia Orion! http://wisewomanmentor.com/art-gallery/1301431

Check out this amazing artist Gaia Orion! http://wisewomanmentor.com/art-gallery/1301431

Well there has been a percolation indeed! Our beautiful exploration of the Divine Dance between the masculine and the feminine was well received and I personally had a wonderful dance, exactly what I have been missing. I can’t be the only one, we might have to put some focus into getting the message out further afield. After all we are part of a region, part of the state, the country, our planet Earth, or Gaia as she is sometimes known. Which leads me perfectly into the next part of my journey, a flow that is unfolding so beautifully, my deep sense of how I am connected to everything.

Another amazing image from Gaia Orion! http://wisewomanmentor.com/art-gallery/1301431

Another amazing image from Gaia Orion! http://wisewomanmentor.com/art-gallery/1301431

And this is going to be the essence of the theme of our next dance which will occur on the night of the full moon in Gemini, communication features heavily with this star sign. So our theme of the interconnectedness of all things is a great concept for that full moon energy to flow into our ocean of love. The playlists tend to be rather organic but I do think that humour is always good here and there, one can get a bit serious sometimes. And some good solid dancing to groovy rhythms and soulful beat, music you can be deliciously lost in, body surrendered to the sound, you become the sound in movement.

Mmmmmm……… I reckon there could be some pretty wild music and fun to be had dancing your heart and your soul, letting the body guide you in what will support you. I look forward to creating the sonic landscape with my Beloved, we always have so much fun! And we learn a lot too, stuff comes up and we engage with a process to clear it. There are lots of ways to move energy in the body, our favourite therapy is our relationship as a spiritual practice. And sometimes we might simply open our hearts and talk to each other, being witnessed on a deep level is very powerful.

Dancing Lovers.

I could go on but it’s time to go now, there are many gardens to tend and I need to go to a different one now. Farewell my virtual friends!

Aho!

Self-Care And Ritual In The Sea Of Love.

body wisdomI’ve just experienced a very intense wave of sickness moving through me very quickly, what seemed a clearing cold began to plummet until I felt simply awful. And it appears to be moving on and out just as quickly now as I write these words, feeling like a fresh wind has expelled a whole lot of toxicity from my system. It feels like my body knows what it is doing and if I can mostly stay out of my own way then I can let that tuning run the essentials.

My focus is on the energetic relationship that I am forming with my Beloved every day that we are together, it is my main spiritual practice. This is the practice you can always find time for, for us love-making is extremely important so inspiration can always be found. And we talk, we talk a lot because we spend an enormous amount of time together, we are always letting each other know how we feel. Actually you get so tuned in to the other person you just know anyway, and you don’t have to be a practicing psychic to be able to do that either.

spirit lovers chakras

I find ritual very helpful, lighting a candle and stating intentions and chanting can be a powerful way of staying attuned to the flow of energies, in relationship and in the larger community. Following a spiritual path has been the most important motivation for me on the journey I have had in this life. Finding a life partner who has the same strong urge to be a seeker has been the most ecstatic experience of my life so far. Together we keep pushing the envelope on that one and I hope we always will!

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At this precise moment my immune system is coming back after a decent workout, slow gradual build over a few days and then whammy. Knock you flat for 24 hours and then feeling the energy coming back into your system just as quickly. Being careful though not to push myself so I can heal sufficiently to do some work tomorrow afternoon and overnight. So in the light of that I shall say goodnight and fare well all you fine ladies and gentlemen!

The Face Of The Divine Is You.

RainyDaysIngredients for staying in bed for far longer than one is supposed to, touch of autumn chill in the air, so cosy under the sheets! Cat snuggled into my bum and the backs of my knees as I lie in a foetal position, thoughts of my beloved drifting into my awareness as I listen to the gentle rain falling outside and allow myself to simply be. Yoga does tempt me but here you find me still partly snuggled under the sheets and cotton blanket with the cat curled up between my legs, computer on my lap, writing to you.

This is the cat I was referring to, a visitor to the house.

This is the cat I was referring to, a visitor to the house.

And now I know what I came here to write, something I have been thinking about sharing with you, a letter I wrote to my Beloved.

Dear Lover,

I treasure your tender loving gaze, your upturned mouth with soft lips tempting me to taste this beautiful bounty that is you. I trust you utterly at depth, I always feel perfectly safe when I am with you, allowing me to open more deeply then I have ever known. You open me to divinity, to the timeless essence that is existence, that cannot be bound for it is boundless. I am you and you are me, together we connect in the energies of love, the ecstatic dance of the polarities.

Love pours out from every cell and when I truly connect with that vibration there is no distance between us, even when we are apart. I love you and always will, looking forward to our shared future as cosmic micronaughts!

Thank you Mother for bringing us together, and to Ganesh for the removal of obstacles.

Your Lover (The Woman who adores you!)

passionate embrace

I never did finish “Dear Lover” by David Deida, so I bought a copy for myself from the Book Depository, it’s the kind of book I think is best read a little at a time. My letter above is not unlike what David Deida writes in his book, it may not be for everyone but I really like the way that he describes being in a relationship. As a spiritual practice it becomes your therapy and everything becomes heightened as you let go of heaviness and shadow amidst great and intense pleasure, light shining everywhere.

Light, delight, and beauty, nature in all her moods and the flow of fun, faeries and moon dust, the Goddess and her consort, true love in my heart, we are all one.